Tuesday, January 5, 2010

When a Band-Aid Covers the Bullet Hole...

Pain is inevitable. Life doesn't go the way you want it to and it has this amazing way of ripping the ground right out from under you! Mine was cancer and autism.....What's yours??

How we deal with the pain is the key to survival. Some people shut down and fall into deep depression......some get angry and spend the rest of their lives and bitter and mean.......a few just live in denial.......and others still go on to simile and tell you they are fine.....which one are you??

I tend to be the smile type. I don't really like to focus on the negative, but it will rear it's head and I find moments when I just break down and fall apart...... You start to think about all the long term implications of your problems. Will my child ever be able to survive on his own, will my finances hold out, what is happening to my family and how will we be able to survive the next disaster. These thoughts tend to surface when it's very late, I'm alone, and exhausted.

The thing is.....we all place band aids over the gaping holes in our life. Dark and spooky places where the light doesn't shine.

What pulls us out of these places?? For me it's God and my wonderful friends. Little miracles show up when I least expect it. Today, it was a beautiful comment left for me on Facebook.

I had a rough day....lately they all have been. Cardiologist appointment for husband this morning, then I had to pick up prescriptions, needed to do some serious cooking for my son, and that didn't even begin to put a dent in my to do list. I have been totally and completely overwhelmed the last couple of months. Yet, through it all....little miracles keep popping up. My small group has provided me with a couple of meals. One really special friend even brought desert, and made special brownies that my son could eat. His smile made lots of the frustration go away....... Then today, the beautiful comment.

The point it how many people have that band aid on? Do we look deeper or take the, "I'm fine" band aid response as the final answer? Pain is we reach out to others is a choice. Giving of ourselves is a choice. We can help properly dress each others wounds.......pour out love and dress with a hug. I think I will try to look deeper tomorrow.......I challenge you to do the same.